You’ve probably heard the line “fake it ’til you make it” before. It can be used to describe a wide range of different scenarios—for instance, you might think of it in terms of buying the trappings of financial success before you can really afford them.
When I think about “faking it,” however, the first thing that comes to mind is less about specific markers of success and more about my intangible self-improvement goals. In this case, I’m using “fake it till you make it” to refer to a different kind of “making it”, one that’s much more personal. I’m talking about self-confidence— developing it, maintaining it, and how it appears in your interactions with others.
I’m not the most confident person on Earth, and chances are, you aren’t either. Pretty much everyone struggles with self-confidence in one way or another. (For instance, sometimes it takes effort for me to believe that I can give good advice to high school students!) However, it’s clear that being confident comes with benefits in terms of what you get out of life and how others perceive you.
Fortunately, I’ve found that it’s not always necessary to be confident. Frequently, acting as though you’re confident is enough to garner some of the same benefits. Here’s how to fake confidence before you really feel it, and how projecting a confident attitude can give you space and practice to develop a truer sense of confidence in yourself.Read More